Category Archives: Reverence

God’s Blueprint for Marriage

“And now I am no more in the world, but these are in the world, and I come to thee. Holy Father, keep through thine own name those whom thou hast given me, that they may be one, as we are” (John 17:11).

If any group of people are going to work together and there is to be unity and harmony and oneness, then it is essential that there is a good system of management in place. You need it in business, you need it in the church, and it is absolutely indispensable in a marriage.

There is a system of management modelled for us in the Godhead that we are to emulate. In the Trinity, the Father is the manager. Jesus said, “As My Father hath sent Me…”(John 20:21). On that night before His crucifixion, in the Garden of Gethsemane, He said, “Father…not My will, but Thine, be done” (Luke 22:42).

Then at the end of the Gospels the Lord Jesus says, “All power is given unto Me in heaven and in earth” (Matthew 28:18), and He sends the Holy Spirit (John 15:26), Who never speaks of Himself (John 16:13), but He only does what the Son tell Him to do. There is a beautiful management relationship between the Persons of the Trinity. And if we are to become one as They are one, then we need to follow God’s blueprint.

There are many who view the Bible’s teaching of the wife’s submission as representing the subordination of women. Nothing could be further from Biblical Truth. One dictionary defines subordination as: “to place in a lower order; to consider of less value; to be inferior.” Do you think that Jesus Christ is in any way inferior to the Father? Do you think that the Holy Spirit is in any way inferior to the Son? They are each God – same in substance, equal in power and glory; but in order that They might be one, They are related in this wonderful way.

Ultimately, it’s not the husband who is the manager of the home, it’s Jesus Christ. It’s not the husband doing his thing and expecting the wife to submit to it. It’s the husband submitting to and doing the will of Jesus Christ. Men, before you put anything on your family and expect them to submit to it, you better make absolutely sure it’s the will of Jesus Christ.

Submission is not a negative term. It is a Biblical principle, and it is required of both husband and wife if there is to be oneness and harmony in a marriage.

Morris Hull, Home Life ministries

God’s Purposes for Authority

“Honor thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth” (Ephesians 6:2-3).

One of the major reasons why many of our young people are constantly making wrong decisions is because they have never been taught God’s purposes for authority.

God has designed authority to function like an umbrella of protection. As long as we remain under God-given authority, nothing can happen to us that God does not design for our ultimate good and His ultimate glory (Romans 8:28). But the moment we rebel against our authority, we move out from underneath that umbrella of protection and expose ourselves to the destructive temptations of Satan.

Scripture says that “…rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft” (1 Samuel 15:23). A person who is involved in witchcraft has given himself over to Satan and his power. Exactly the same thing happens the moment you step outside that umbrella of protection. That’s why as I have opportunity to talk with young people, I urge them to honor and obey their parents.

Do you know anyone and things don’t seem to be going well for them? Many times it can be traced back to a violation of this Biblical principle of authority. This is true not just for young people but for adults as well. If someone comes for counsel and tells me that things aren’t going well for them, the first questions I ask are: What is your relationship like with your parents? What is your attitude toward authority? Were you rebellious as a teenager? Did you marry against your parents wishes? Have you ever made that right?

Understand that God wishes for things to go well for us. Whether they do or not is conditional upon our attitude toward authority (Ephesians 6:2-3). That doesn’t mean that we should blindly obey our authorities. If they ask us to violate the clear teaching of Scripture then “…we ought to obey God rather than men” (Acts 5:29).

This is a Biblical principle that our children desperately need to understand.

Morris Hull, Home Life Ministries

Courtship Covenant


A Covenant

Between a Father and a Daughter

as Witnessed by the Lord Jesus Christ

We Agree Together to Seek God’s Best Concerning

a Future Life Partner

Father

I will protect you from unqualified men.

I will teach you God’s principles of life.

I will pray for you and for God’s choice of your life partner.

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Father’s signature

Daughter

I will keep myself pure for my husband.

I will obtain your blessing on my courtship.

I will wait for your full release before entering into marriage.

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Daughter’s signature

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Pastor’s signature

 

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Obedience Is Non-optional

One of the major reasons why many of our young people are constantly making wrong decisions is because they have never been taught God’s purposes for authority.

God has designed authority to function like an umbrella of protection. As long as we remain under God-given authority, nothing can happen to us that God does not design for our ultimate good and His ultimate glory. But the moment we rebel against our authority, we move out from underneath that umbrella of protection and expose ourselves to the destructive temptations of Satan.

Scripture says that “…rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft” (1 Samuel 15:23). A person who is involved in witchcraft has given himself over to Satan and his power. Exactly the same thing happens the moment you step outside that umbrella of protection. That’s why as I have opportunity to talk with young people, I urge them to honor and obey their parents.

Do you know anyone and things don’t seem to be going well for them? Many times it can be traced back to a violation of this Biblical principle of authority. This is true not just for young people but for adults as well. If someone comes for counsel and tells me that things aren’t going well for them, the first questions I ask is, what is your relationship like with your parents? What is your attitude toward authority? Were you rebellious as a teenager? Did you marry against your parents wishes? Have you ever made that right?

Understand that God wishes for things to go well for us. Whether they do or not is conditional upon our attitude toward authority (Ephesians 6:2-3). That doesn’t mean that we should blindly obey our authorities. If they ask us to violate the clear teaching of Scripture then “…we ought to obey God rather than men” (Acts 5:29).

This is a Biblical principle that our children desperately need to understand.

Morris Hull
Home Life Ministries

Two Dimensions of Obedience

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth” (Ephesians 6:1-3).

One of the first character qualities that needs to be taught is obedience. Children need to be taught the meaning of the word, “No.” They need to be taught from an early age how to respond to the voice of their parents.

There are two characteristics necessary for obedience to take place. First, there is a time dimension – it must be immediate. If you have to keep telling your children over and over again to do something, then you’re really training them for disobedience.

Second, there is an attitude dimension – it must be honoring. If the child follows the instruction but he does it with a rotten attitude, then it’s not obedience. If he gripes, complains or rolls his eyes, it’s really disobedience.

Disobedience, however, is not a licence for the parent to lash out in anger. Anger is never appropriate and will never accomplish God’s righteous purposes (James 1:20). The parent who disciplines in anger is out of control and is sowing the seeds of bitterness and rebellion in the heart of that child. Scripture gives the stark warning that “It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones” (Luke 17:2).

The phrase “in the Lord” means that a child should always obey his parents unless they ask him to do something which violates God’s Word. As Christians, we must obey God rather than man (Acts 5:29).

Paul says, “…for this is right” – this is righteous! This is Christ-like! This is exactly what Jesus would do. We know that from Luke 2:51 where it says that Jesus went down with His parents “to Nazareth, and was subject unto them…”

Paul says, “ Honor your father and mother…that it may be well with you…” Do you know anyone and things don’t seem to be going well for them? Many times it can be traced back to a violation of this Biblical principle of authority. This is true not just for young people but for adults as well. If someone comes to me for counsel and tells me things aren’t going well for them, the first question I ask is “What is your relationship like with your parents – what is your attitude toward authority?”

Children learn just as much by example as they do by instruction. Ultimately, how we respond to the Lord and to the authorities that He has placed over us will be mirrored by our children. When they are disrespectful or slow to obey, or grumble about what they have to do – are they mimicking our own response and attitude toward authority? First, we need to correct our own heart attitudes and then we will be in a position to correct those same attitudes in our children.

Morris Hull
Home Life Ministries

Reasons Why God Has Established Authority

1. For our protection

God has designed authority to function like an umbrella of protection. As long as we remain under God-given authority, nothing can happen to us that God does not design for our ultimate good and His ultimate glory. But the moment we challenge and disobey our authority, we move out from underneath that umbrella of protection and expose ourselves to the destructive forces of Satan. That’s why Scripture says that “rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft” (1 Samuel 15:23). A person who is involved in witchcraft has given himself over to Satan and his power. Exactly the same thing happens the moment you step outside that umbrella of protection – you expose yourself to the destructive forces of Satan. Satan’s strategy is to get us outside that umbrella of protection because he knows he can’t harm us as long as we remain under our God-given authority. 

2. For direction

The most essential means of finding God’s will (second only to the Word of God) is checking with our authorities, because God directs through your authority. Now that’s radical teaching for our society! Parents are often the last on the list that our young people come to for advice, and that’s tragic. This explains why so many Christian young people today are constantly making wrong decisions and are just drifting through life with no vital spiritual purpose for living. It’s only as we submit to the authority of those God has placed over us – parents, government, employer, leadership in the local church – that we can benefit from God’s protection and direction.

 

3. For character development

Every single one of us has a multitude of character deficiencies that need to be perfected. Authorities are the tools in God’s hands that He uses to chip away at the rough edges of our character and to transform us into the image of Jesus Christ (Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness [is] bound in the heart of a child; [but] the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.). If we react and resist and get out from under the reproofs and authority of our parents, God only has to raise up new “tools” to continue the job.

God Has Ordained Four Basic Structures of Authority

Romans 13:1-2 Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation.

1. The Family

The family was the very first authority structure that God ever established, and it is foundational to all other structures of authority. Strong families will produce strong churches and nations. Weak families will produce weak churches and weak nations. Scripture makes it very clear that the husband is under the direct authority of God…The wife is under the authority of the husband…And the children are under the authority of their parents. This is the chain-of-command which God has established within the family. If this chain is broken or perverted in any way, if the husband resigns the spiritual leadership of the family to his wife, if the children are undisciplined and allowed to do whatever they want, then there will be serious consequences in the lives of that family.

2. The Government

Submission to the entire structure of government from the leader of our country, all the way down to the local police officers is commanded in Scripture. 1 Peter 2:13-14 Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord’s sake: whether it be to the king, as supreme; Or unto governors, as unto them that are sent by him for the punishment of evildoers, and for the praise of them that do well.

3. The Church

God has provided the leadership within a properly functioning local church to be responsible for the spiritual care and welfare of each member. Hebrews 13:17 Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.

4. Our Employers

Paul, in Ephesians 6:5, writes, “Servants, be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ.”

Is there ever a situation when we should disobey those in authority over us? Acts 4:19-20 infers that if we are confronted with a situation and are asked by our authorities to violate a Biblical command or principle, then we must obey God rather than man.