Paul says in Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” What comes to mind when you read that verse?
I used to think that Paul was talking about the great things of the Christian life. We can do the little and mundane things by ourselves and we just need God’s help for those overwhelming projects and those challenging people.
However, the context of this verse is not the great things but the humiliating things. Paul says, “I know…how to be abased…to be hungry… and to suffer need” (Philippians 4:12).
God loves humility (He hates pride; but He loves humility!). This is the starting point for rebuilding broken relationships.
Some of the most difficult words we will ever have to say are, “I was wrong. Will you please forgive me?” You know, most family conflicts could be resolved and even avoided right here! If you have wronged someone in your family, if you’ve hurt them or embarrassed them or offended them or disciplined them in anger, then you need to take responsibility and humble yourself and ask their forgiveness.
It’s as we are willing to humble ourselves before God and before others that God gives us grace. James 4:6 says, “But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.”
You say, “I just can’t do that. There’s no way I could ever ask for forgiveness.” Paul says, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”
Some of the most successful marriages and families are those that ask each other forgiveness several times each week. There is no such thing as the perfect family. We all make mistakes. But God wants us to develop the quality of humility. He wants us to humble ourselves; and through that demonstration of humility, He will bind and knit our hearts together.
Whatever relationship may be damaged – it can be healed and repaired if we are willing to humble ourselves and take responsibility for our hurtful words, actions and attitudes.
Morris Hull – Home Life Ministries