“But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Matthew 6:15).
If you aren’t praying for your children, then who is? Given the pressures placed upon young people in our society today, your children need prayer! And if you aren’t praying daily for them, then it is very likely that they have no one else to plead for them before the throne of grace.
But what should you be praying for your children?
Pray that they will forgive those that have hurt and offended them. Scripture warns of the consequences of unforgiveness. Hebrews 12:15 says, “Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled.”
As I counsel with people and as we work through the area of bitterness, the two people usually on the top of their list are Mom and Dad! Parents, make sure you maintain a clear conscience with your children. Do not allow Satan to use your failure or your refusal to ask forgiveness as a means of gaining “ground” (Ephesians 4:27) in your children’s lives!
If you are aware of any occasion in which you have hurt or offended one of your children, then you need to humble yourself and ask that son or that daughter’s forgiveness. Even if you’re not aware of any offences, get alone with each child and ask them if there has ever been a time when you have wronged them and never made it right. Be prepared to humble yourself and take responsibility for your wrong words, actions or attitudes and say, “I was wrong! Will you please forgive me?”
If you have disciplined your child in anger, you are sowing the seeds of bitterness and rebellion in the heart of that child. Take responsibility for your anger and ask forgiveness. Your anger is just as wrong as any offense they may have committed. Don’t rationalize the situation by saying, “I was wrong BUT you were too.” Just focus on your own wrong words, actions or attitudes. This is the starting point for rebuilding broken relationships.
By humbling yourself and clearing your conscience, you then give them the opportunity to deal with any bitterness they may be harboring.
It is absolutely essential that you pray for your children. Because if you aren’t praying for your children, then who is?
Morris Hull, Home Life Ministries