Category Archives: Patience

Act, Don’t React!

“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me” (Philippians 4:13).

How we respond when we have been hurt or wronged is an eloquent indication of the depth of our walk with God.

As Christians we are called to a higher standard than the world. That standard highlights our inability to live the Christian life in our own strength. We can’t pull ourselves up by our own bootstraps. We are totally inadequate for the task.

The following passages of Scripture reveal the standard to which we are held accountable as Christians:

• Luke 6:27-29 – But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. And unto him that smiteth thee on the one cheek offer also the other; and him that taketh away thy cloke forbid not to take thy coat also.
• Romans 12:21 – Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
• 1 Peter 3:9 – Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.

Two wrongs do not make a right. The writer of Proverbs says, “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger” (Proverbs 15:1). We do not need to treat others in the same way that we have been treated. It is clear from these passages of Scripture that we need to act – not react. Neither should we simply be passive; but God’s Word confirms the need to actively rise above the tit-for-tat behavior that characterizes so many failing relationships.

This is what should set us apart as Christians; and why we need to daily draw on the power of the Risen Christ. The wrongs committed against us are opportunities for us to grow in our walk with God as we acknowledge the Truth of His Word and submit ourselves to be governed by its principles rather than our emotions.

Morris Hull
Home Life Ministries

Don’t Get Offended!

“Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them” (Psalm 119:165).

We offend one another regularly by our wrong words, actions and attitudes. Some times we even offend people by doing what is right. Jesus offended people regularly by speaking the truth. It is so easy to offend other people. Especially if you’re in leadership, you’ll understand that you can’t please all of the people all of the time, but you can sure make them all mad at you.

Many are offended by the Gospel message. Jesus said in Matthew 11:6, “And blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me.” Now, for fear of offending anyone, we dilute the Gospel message so much that it no longer has the power to save because we fail to talk about sin and judgment and personal responsibility. But the Bible tells us that the Gospel will offend. We just need to make sure that if people are going to take offense, that it’s because of the conviction brought about by the message, and not because of the wrong attitudes of the messenger. That’s why the Bible tells us that we are to speak “the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15).

The word “offense” means a stumbling block: something that can cause you to fall and bring about your ruin.

It’s common for people to think that whenever there is a conflict between two people that the offender is the one with the spiritual problem. But the person against whom the offense was committed has an even greater potential for sin. The offender may or may not have done wrong. If he has done wrong, he needs to take responsibility for his wrong words or actions or attitudes and he needs to make it right. But the person who has been offended needs to be on his guard.

As Jesus has His last parting words with His disciples in the upper room just before His crucifixion, He says in John 16:1, “These things have I spoken unto you, that ye should not be offended.” A spirit-filled follower of Jesus Christ is not easily offended because he realizes that God uses even our enemies and critics to accomplish His purposes in our lives. A true Spirit-filled Christian will not take up an offense against someone or on behalf of someone else. Certainly there are going to be disagreements, but the moment that disagreement turns contentious, the moment there is bitterness or hatred then you have stepped across a line that can bring all kinds of destruction to your relationships.

Let’s not be so easily offended by others. Remember that we are all in process. Let’s be as patient and kind with each other as the Lord is with us.

Courtship Covenant


A Covenant

Between a Father and a Daughter

as Witnessed by the Lord Jesus Christ

We Agree Together to Seek God’s Best Concerning

a Future Life Partner

Father

I will protect you from unqualified men.

I will teach you God’s principles of life.

I will pray for you and for God’s choice of your life partner.

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Father’s signature

Daughter

I will keep myself pure for my husband.

I will obtain your blessing on my courtship.

I will wait for your full release before entering into marriage.

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Daughter’s signature

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Pastor’s signature

 

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Quotes on Patience

John Calvin has said: “I have not so great a struggle with my vices, great and numerous as they are, as I have with my impatience.”

C.H. Spurgeon said, “If you are tempted to lose patience with your fellowmen, stop and think how patient God has been with you.”

It is easy finding reasons why other people should be patient. George Eliot.

Five things are requisite to a good officer — ability, clean hands, dispatch, patience and impartiality. William Penn.

Do not let the loud utterances of your own wills anticipate nor drown, the still, small voice in which God speaks. Bridle impatience till He does. If you cannot hear His whisper, wait till you do. Take care of running before you are sent. Keep your wills in equipoise till God’s hand gives the impulse and direction. Alexander Maclaren.

Overcoming the World

I believe that a great many Christians are overcome because they don’t know what a terrible fight we have. Now, it is no sign because a man is a Christian that he is going to overcome the world, unless he resists temptation when it comes. Do not let any man think that all he has to do is to join the church. That will not save you. The question is, Are you overcoming the world, or is the world overcoming you? Are you more loving than you were five years ago? Are you more patient than you were five years ago? Are you more amiable? Have you more patience? If you haven’t, the world is overcoming you, even if you are a church member.

That epistle which Paul wrote to Titus says we are to be sound in patience, faith and charity. We have got Christians — a good many of them — who are good in spots, but mighty poor in other spots.

— MOODY.

A Cause Of Suffering: Impatience

We knew a mother who was greatly given to scolding her sons and daughters. She not only was continually picking and nagging, but at times she would go into a perfect fury with them. She lost five of these children, and begged every one of them on their deathbeds to forgive her. After they were in the cemetery, she lived in memory over their lives again, beholding continually the wounds she had inflicted upon them with her uncontrollable tongue, and her agony was frightful to contemplate.

We know of a man who lived in a lonely country neighborhood, and when in absence of help had to dress the body of his son for the coffin. In turning the corpse he caught sight of great marks and stripes on the back which he had put there with a cowhide in one of his merciless whippings.

His own suffering at the sight can be easily imagined.

Yet there are crueler blows than those which come from a whip. There are wounds made by the fretful, impatient and angry tongue which never seem to heal. The victim may be removed from sight. The face we shadowed and grieved may rest quietly under the sod of some country church-yard or city cemetery, but the recollection of the pained, suffering look that was cast upon us as we wielded the lash-like tongue, we can never forget. The marks were not only left on them, but seem to abide with us.

Not only then for our increased influence for good; and not only for the happiness of others with whom we are associated; but for our own souls sake we see why the Bible tells us to Be patient toward all men.

Living Illustrations By B. Carradine 

Tears in The Night

In Western Africa, it was fourteen years before one convert was received into the church; in East Africa, ten; in New Zealand, nine years before one baptism; in Tahiti, it was sixteen years before the first harvest. William Carey labored seven years before the first Hindu convert was baptized  In Burma, Judson toiled for seven years before he had one, once writing England: “Beg the churches to have patience. If a ship were to carry me to any part of the world, I would not leave my field. Tell the brethren success is as certain as the promise of a faithful God can make it.”

 

Patience/Impatience

(A) PATIENCE

(1) Enjoined  # Ec 7:8 Lu 21:19 Ro 12:12 1Th 5:14 2Ti 2:24 Tit 2:2 Heb 10:36 Jas 1:4 5:7 2Pe 1:6

(2) Examples of  # 2Th 1:4 Heb 6:15 Jas 5:11 Re 1:9 2:2 14:12

(3) In Waiting for God  # Ge 49:18 Ps 33:20 37:7 40:1 130:6 Isa 25:9 26:8 33:2 La 3:25 Lu 2:25 Ac 1:4

(B) IMPATIENCE, examples of

  • Moses, at the murmuring of Israel # Nu 20:10
  • Naaman, at the conditions imposed by the prophet # 2Ki 5:11,12
  • Jonah, at the blasting of the gourd # Jon 4:8,9
  • The disciples, at the outcry of the Syrophenician woman # Mt 15:23
  • James and John, at the inhospitality of the Samaritans # Lu 9:54
  • Martha, with her sister Mary # Lu 10:40

How to Demonstrate Patience

to God

  • Thanking God for each trial knowing that He is working through it to build in me the character of Jesus Christ
  • Serving others as unto the Lord even though there is no apparent gratitude or recognition for my service
  • Obeying God by faith even though my natural inclinations tell me otherwise
  • Allowing God the freedom to work rather than attempting to change people and situations in my own strength
  • Using my teenage years to accomplish as much as possible for God’s kingdom rather than focusing on boyfriend/girlfriend relationships

to Parents

  • Listening attentively to my parents instructions and putting their wishes ahead of my own schedule
  • Viewing my brothers and sisters as those whom the Lord has brought into my life to teach me character
  • Trusting that God will work through my parents to guide me in His choice for marriage

to your Civil Authorities

  • Being respectful to those whom God has placed in authority over me even though their goals and priorities may be different than my own

to your Employers

  • Showing gratefulness for my present salary rather than focusing on possible future benefits
  • Being willing to learn and serve rather than aspiring to leadership

to your Church Leaders

  • Avoiding criticising others in the church realising that God is patient with me and my own shortcomings

Character Definitions for Patience

  • Accepting a difficult situation from the Lord without giving Him a deadline to remove it 
  • The characteristic of a man who is not swerved from his deliberate purpose and his loyalty to faith and piety by even the greatest trials and sufferings(Strong)
  • noun the quality of being able calmly to endure suffering, toil, delay, vexation, or any similar condition. pa’tient adjective sustaining pain, delay, etc, calmly and without complaint; not easily provoked; persevering in long-continued or intricate work; expecting with calmness; long-suffering; enduring.noun someone who bears or suffers (obsolete); a person under medical or surgical treatment; a doctor’s client. »French, from Latin patientia, from pati to bear (Chambers Dictionary)

Bible Verses Related to Patience

Spend an evening (or several) looking at just one of these verses at a time. Don’t forget to ask your children the questions: Who? What? Where? Why? When? and How? Discuss with your family what each verse or story teaches about the character quality; and give vital application of how this quality can be applied to your family. Choose several verses to memorize together as a family.

  • Psalms 37:7  Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass. {Rest in: Heb. Be silent to}
  • Psalms 40:1  I waited patiently for the LORD; and he inclined unto me, and heard my cry. {I waited…: Heb. In waiting I waited}
  • Ecclesiastes 7:8 Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.
    Matthew 18:26 The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. {worshipped him: or, besought him}
  • Isaiah 40:28-31 Hast thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no searching of his understanding. 29 He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. 30 Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: 31 But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. {renew: Heb. change}
  • Matthew 18:29 And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.
  • Luke 8:15 But that on the good ground are they, which in an honest and good heart, having heard the word, keep it, and bring forth fruit with patience.
  • Luke 21:19 In your patience possess ye your souls.
  • Acts 26:3 Especially because I know thee to be expert in all customs and questions which are among the Jews: wherefore I beseech thee to hear me patiently.
  • Romans 2:7 To them who by patient continuance in well doing seek for glory and honour and immortality, eternal life:
  • Romans 5:3-4 And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience; And patience, experience; and experience, hope.
  • Romans 8:25 But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it.
  • Romans 12:12 Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;
  • Romans 15:4 For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope.
  • Romans 15:5 Now the God of patience and consolation grant you to be likeminded one toward another according to Christ Jesus: {according to: or, after the example of}
  • 2 Corinthians 6:4 But in all things approving ourselves as the ministers of God, in much patience, in afflictions, in necessities, in distresses, {approving: Gr. commending}
  • 2 Corinthians 12:12 Truly the signs of an apostle were wrought among you in all patience, in signs, and wonders, and mighty deeds.
  • Colossians 1:11 Strengthened with all might, according to his glorious power, unto all patience and longsuffering with joyfulness;
  • 1 Thessalonians 1:3 Remembering without ceasing your work of faith, and labour of love, and patience of hope in our Lord Jesus Christ, in the sight of God and our Father;
  • 1 Thessalonians 5:14 Now we exhort you, brethren, warn them that are unruly, comfort the feebleminded, support the weak, be patient toward all men. {exhort: or, beseech} {unruly: or, disorderly}
  • 2 Thessalonians 1:4 So that we ourselves glory in you in the churches of God for your patience and faith in all your persecutions and tribulations that ye endure:
  • 2 Thessalonians 3:5 And the Lord direct your hearts into the love of God, and into the patient waiting for Christ. {patient…: or, patience of Christ}
  • 1 Timothy 3:3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; {given…: or, ready to quarrel, and offer wrong, as one in wine}
  • 1 Timothy 6:11 But thou, O man of God, flee these things; and follow after righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, meekness.
  • 2 Timothy 2:24 And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, {patient: or, forbearing}
  • 2 Timothy 3:10 But thou hast fully known my doctrine, manner of life, purpose, faith, longsuffering, charity, patience, {fully…: or, been a diligent follower of}
  • Titus 2:2 That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. {sober: or, vigilant}
  • Hebrews 6:12 That ye be not slothful, but followers of them who through faith and patience inherit the promises.
  • Hebrews 6:15 And so, after he had patiently endured, he obtained the promise.
  • Hebrews 10:36 For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.
  • Hebrews 12:1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,
  • James 1:3 Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.
  • James 1:4 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.
  • James 5:7 Be patient therefore, brethren, unto the coming of the Lord. Behold, the husbandman waiteth for the precious fruit of the earth, and hath long patience for it, until he receive the early and latter rain. {Be…: or, Be long patient, or, Suffer with long patience}
  • James 5:8 Be ye also patient; stablish your hearts: for the coming of the Lord draweth nigh.
  • James 5:10 Take, my brethren, the prophets, who have spoken in the name of the Lord, for an example of suffering affliction, and of patience.
  • James 5:11 Behold, we count them happy which endure. Ye have heard of the patience of Job, and have seen the end of the Lord; that the Lord is very pitiful, and of tender mercy.
  • 1 Peter 2:20 For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it , ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God. {acceptable: or, thank}
  • 2 Peter 1:6 And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness;
  • Revelation 1:9 I John, who also am your brother, and companion in tribulation, and in the kingdom and patience of Jesus Christ, was in the isle that is called Patmos, for the word of God, and for the testimony of Jesus Christ.
  • Revelation 2:2 I know thy works, and thy labour, and thy patience, and how thou canst not bear them which are evil: and thou hast tried them which say they are apostles, and are not, and hast found them liars:
  • Revelation 2:3 And hast borne, and hast patience, and for my name’s sake hast laboured, and hast not fainted.
  • Revelation 2:19 I know thy works, and charity, and service, and faith, and thy patience, and thy works; and the last to be more than the first.
  • Revelation 3:10 Because thou hast kept the word of my patience, I also will keep thee from the hour of temptation, which shall come upon all the world, to try them that dwell upon the earth.
  • Revelation 13:10 He that leadeth into captivity shall go into captivity: he that killeth with the sword must be killed with the sword. Here is the patience and the faith of the saints.
  • Revelation 14:12 Here is the patience of the saints: here are they that keep the commandments of God, and the faith of Jesus.