God’s Blueprint for Marriage

“And now I am no more in the world, but these are in the world, and I come to thee. Holy Father, keep through thine own name those whom thou hast given me, that they may be one, as we are” (John 17:11).

If any group of people are going to work together and there is to be unity and harmony and oneness, then it is essential that there is a good system of management in place. You need it in business, you need it in the church, and it is absolutely indispensable in a marriage.

There is a system of management modelled for us in the Godhead that we are to emulate. In the Trinity, the Father is the manager. Jesus said, “As My Father hath sent Me…”(John 20:21). On that night before His crucifixion, in the Garden of Gethsemane, He said, “Father…not My will, but Thine, be done” (Luke 22:42).

Then at the end of the Gospels the Lord Jesus says, “All power is given unto Me in heaven and in earth” (Matthew 28:18), and He sends the Holy Spirit (John 15:26), Who never speaks of Himself (John 16:13), but He only does what the Son tell Him to do. There is a beautiful management relationship between the Persons of the Trinity. And if we are to become one as They are one, then we need to follow God’s blueprint.

There are many who view the Bible’s teaching of the wife’s submission as representing the subordination of women. Nothing could be further from Biblical Truth. One dictionary defines subordination as: “to place in a lower order; to consider of less value; to be inferior.” Do you think that Jesus Christ is in any way inferior to the Father? Do you think that the Holy Spirit is in any way inferior to the Son? They are each God – same in substance, equal in power and glory; but in order that They might be one, They are related in this wonderful way.

Ultimately, it’s not the husband who is the manager of the home, it’s Jesus Christ. It’s not the husband doing his thing and expecting the wife to submit to it. It’s the husband submitting to and doing the will of Jesus Christ. Men, before you put anything on your family and expect them to submit to it, you better make absolutely sure it’s the will of Jesus Christ.

Submission is not a negative term. It is a Biblical principle, and it is required of both husband and wife if there is to be oneness and harmony in a marriage.

Morris Hull, Home Life ministries